It is not betrayal that breaks a person,

(Raast)

،انسان دھوکے سے نہیں

دھوکے کے بعد باقی رہ جانے والی وفا کے بوجھ سے ٹوٹتا ہے۔

(راست)

ہم اسے ناانصافی کہتے ہیں جب کامیابی کا دروازہ ہمارے لیے بند ہو جاتا ہے

مگر  ہم یہ پوچھنا بھول جاتے ہیں کہ ہماری اپنی ترجیحات

 اور انتخاب نے اُس دروازے کو ہمارے بارے میں کیا سکھایا تھا۔

(راست)

But stubbornness and desire can destroy what love makes beautiful.

(Raast)

محبت انسان کے اندر ایسے اُجالے کی طرح اُترتی ہے

What Is Trauma?

What if the pain you never healed becomes the pain you give to someone else?

Trauma is a deeply distressing or life-threatening event that overwhelms your nervous system and your ability to cope.

In life, many events happen that you may not be able to process normally. Sometimes, an experience stays deeply rooted in your memories and senses. Sometimes, it even becomes an unfulfilled longing.

A trigger may make you repeat the same pain with others, or make you avoid that experience completely and distance yourself from people.

You may not be able to control everything you feel, but you can learn to reduce its impact.

Now let us see how Islam teaches you to break this cycle through the life of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.

The Prophet ﷺ and the Experience of Loss

To understand this, you have to look at the life of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.

His father passed away before he was born. Then his mother passed away, followed by his grandfather, and eventually his beloved uncle.

He ﷺ knew what it meant to grow up without a father. And when a child sees others receiving the love and protection of their fathers, a natural longing can arise:

“I wish I had that love too.”

He ﷺ remained patient, but patience does not mean that the heart never feels pain.

Then, when the revelation was temporarily interrupted, the Prophet ﷺbecame deeply concerned. And Allah reassured him:

Surah Ad-Duha — 93:6–11

أَلَمْ يَجِدْكَ يَتِيمًا فَآوَىٰ ۝٦

وَوَجَدَكَ ضَالًّا فَهَدَىٰ ۝٧

وَوَجَدَكَ عَائِلًا فَأَغْنَىٰ ۝٨

فَأَمَّا الْيَتِيمَ فَلَا تَقْهَرْ ۝٩

وَأَمَّا السَّائِلَ فَلَا تَنْهَرْ ۝١٠

وَأَمَّا بِنِعْمَةِ رَبِّكَ فَحَدِّثْ ۝١١

“Did He not find you an orphan and give you refuge?

And He found you lost and guided you,

And He found you poor and made you self-sufficient.

So as for the orphan, do not oppress him.

And as for the petitioner, do not repel him.

And as for the favor of your Lord, report it.”

These verses reveal something deeply powerful: Allah reminded the Prophet ﷺ of what he had been through and then taught him not to let his pain become a reason to hurt someone else.

You were an orphan, so do not oppress the orphan.

You knew vulnerability, so do not become the source of another person’s vulnerability.

This is how a toxic cycle is broken.

You do not have to pass your pain forward simply because it was once passed to you.

Sometimes, breaking that cycle means letting go of what your heart has carried for years. It requires patience, forgiveness, healing, and turning toward Allah.

Your pain may explain what happened to you, but it does not have to decide what you become.

Because without Allah’s help, true transformation is impossible.

If you want to understand Why Do We Repeat the Same Sins?

Read this article.

👉 WHY DO WE REPEAT THE SAME SINS? HOW TO BREAK THE CYCLE | ISLAMIC SPIRITUALITY, NAFS & INĀBAH

(راست)

I don’t know what true love truly is,

but when the distinction 

between the lover and the beloved fades away,

know that love has reached its perfection.

(Raast)

،دل وہ جگہ ہے جہاں خواہش جڑ پکڑتی ہے

،خواہش نیت کو جنم دیتی ہے

،نیت عمل میں جان ڈالتی ہے

اور عمل سے جزا یا سزا کا پھل تیار ہوتا ہے۔

(راست)

(Raast)

(راست)

Some things are not meant to be found; 

they are meant to find a home within you.

(Raast)

تزکیۂ نفس اس پانی کی مانند ہے

 جو مسلسل بہاؤ سے سخت پتھر کی تیزی بھی مٹا دیتا ہے۔ 

اسی طرح نفس کی اصلاح انسان کی سختی 

، اور انا کو گھِس دیتی ہے، یہاں تک کہ اس کی زبان مرہم

اس کا کردار رحمت، اور اس کا وجود اللہ کی محبت کا آئینہ بن جاتا ہے۔

(راست)

Tazkiyah al-Nafs (Purification of the Soul)

 is like water that, through its constant flow,

 gradually smooths even the sharpest stone.

 Likewise, the continuous purification of the soul 

wears away the hardness of the heart 

and the pride of the ego until 

one's words become a healing balm, 

one's character becomes a mercy, 

and one's very existence reflects

 the love and light of Allah.

(Raast)

حسینؑ کا راستہ کیا ہے؟

اور کس کے لیے ہے؟

اور مومن کیسے بنتے ہیں؟

،ان سوالوں کا جواب صرف اُن لوگوں کو ملے گا جو

،اللہ کو راضی رکھنے کی چاہت رکھتے ہوں

جو نفس سے لڑائی کرنا جانتے ہوں۔

،ورنہ حسینؑ کا غم صرف ایک رسم ہے

کیونکہ اگر انسان کا اندر نہ بدلا تو باہر سے عزاداری کا کوئی فائدہ نہیں۔

 یہ تو اندر سے حق پر قائم رہنے کا نام ہے۔

(راست)

The answers to these questions will only be found by 

those who desire to please Allah and who know

 how to struggle against their own desires (nafs).

Otherwise, the mourning of Hussain (A.S.) is merely a ritual,

 because if a person does not change inwardly,

 then outward mourning has no benefit. It is, in reality,

 the name of remaining steadfast upon the truth from within.

(Raast)

عقل مند خاموش رہ کر جاہل سے بحث میں جیت جاتا ہے 

(راست) 

When wisdom chooses silence,

 ignorance has already lost the debate.

(Raast)

Who but Abbas (A.S.) teaches loyalty its fullest meaning!

And when he enters the battlefield, where do the shadows find refuge?

(Raast)