The world's definition of forbidden love usually refers to relationships that society, culture, family, or law does not approve of. However, Islam presents a much deeper and more precise psychology of forbidden love.

Forbidden Love and Romantic Relationships in Islam

In Islam, every romantic relationship that exists outside the boundaries set by Shariah is considered forbidden. The Qur'an not only defines lawful and unlawful relationships but also prohibits taking secret lovers:

(Surah An-Nisa 4:23-25)

4:23

Forbidden to you (for marriage) are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your paternal aunts, your maternal aunts, your brothers' daughters, your sisters' daughters, your foster mothers who nursed you, your foster sisters, your wives' mothers, your stepdaughters under your guardianship born of your wives with whom you have consummated marriage—but if you have not consummated marriage with them, there is no blame upon you—and the wives of your sons who are from your own loins, and that you take two sisters together in marriage, except for what has already passed. Indeed, Allah is Ever-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

4:24

Also forbidden are married women, except those whom your right hands possess. This is Allah's decree upon you. Lawful to you are all others beyond these, provided that you seek them in marriage with your wealth, desiring chastity and not unlawful sexual relations. So for whatever you enjoy from them, give them their due compensation as an obligation. There is no blame upon you for what you mutually agree upon beyond the obligation. Indeed, Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.

4:25

  And whoever among you cannot afford to marry free believing women, then let him marry from among your believing slave women whom your right hands possess. Allah knows best about your faith. You are of one another. So marry them with the permission of their people and give them their due compensation according to what is acceptable, being chaste, neither committing unlawful sexual intercourse nor taking secret lovers. Then when they are married, if they commit immorality, they shall receive half the punishment prescribed for free married women. This concession is for those among you who fear falling into sin. But if you are patient, it is better for you. And Allah is Ever-Forgiving, Most Merciful 

These verses show that love and relationships are not left to personal desires alone; they are guided by divine limits and responsibilities.

The Hidden Spectrum of Forbidden Love

There is, however, another spectrum of forbidden love that often goes unnoticed. Allah warns believers not to let worldly attachments distract them from Him:

(Surah Al-Munafiqun 63:9)

"O you who have believed, let not your wealth and your children divert you from the remembrance of Allah. And whoever does that—then those are the losers."

Parents naturally love their children deeply, and this love is a blessing from Allah. Yet sometimes a person's attachment to their children, wealth, or family becomes so overwhelming that they are willing to cross the limits set by Allah for their sake. The love itself is not forbidden, but it has boundaries.

Allah further reminds us:

(Surah At-Taghabun 64:15)

"Your wealth and your children are only a trial, and Allah has with Him a great reward." 

Even the purest worldly relationships are a test. They are blessings, but they should never become greater than our love and obedience to Allah.

Allah also says:

(Surah At-Tawbah 9:24)

"Say, if your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your spouses, your relatives, the wealth you have acquired, the commerce you fear may decline, and the homes you love are more beloved to you than Allah and His Messenger and striving in His cause, then wait until Allah brings about His command."

The Qur'anic Definition of Forbidden Love

The definition of forbidden love in Islam is therefore extremely precise and delicate:

Any love that causes you to forget Allah, distances you from His remembrance, or leads you to cross the limits He has set becomes a forbidden attachment.

Allah is the ultimate Source of every blessing and every form of love. If a person forgets the very Source from whom all love comes, how can they truly succeed?

Many people in the modern world view love solely through emotions and personal desires, often overlooking the spiritual boundaries and responsibilities that Islam places upon it. The Qur'an, however, teaches that true love is not merely about intensity of feelings—it is about loving within the limits set by Allah and ensuring that no attachment becomes greater than our attachment to Him.

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Allah says in Quran 

Surah Qaf (50:16)

وَنَحۡنُ اَقۡرَبُ اِلَيۡهِ مِنۡ حَبۡلِ الۡوَرِيۡدِ

"And We are closer to him than [his] jugular vein."

 Let try to understand this verse psychologically and scientifically.

The Scientific Reflection

The heart is the center of the body that pumps blood throughout the entire body, including the brain. Without receiving blood from the heart, the brain cannot function. To send and receive signals from the body, the brain depends upon blood flow, and that blood travels through the jugular veins.

Allah says, "I am closer to him than his jugular vein."

This means that before you even feel something or receive signals from your body, Allah is so close to you that you cannot even comprehend that distance. Allah is not inside the jugular vein; rather, He is nearer to you than it in His knowledge, awareness, and closeness.

Why Do We Not Feel this Closeness?

Human beings live through many layers.

First, there is the physical layer, which we study through biology, chemistry, and physics.

Then there is the psychological and spiritual layer, which includes our desires, intentions, emotions, and inner struggles. Human beings may share the same biology, yet their behaviors and choices are completely different.

To understand this verse more deeply, we must also look at the human soul.

The Barrier of  Desires

We have been placed in this world for a test and for a limited period of time. One day, every one of us will return to Allah.

Allah has placed us in different circumstances and conditions, but between us and the awareness of His closeness stands a barrier: our desires and our attachment to this world.

When a person sacrifices his desires for the sake of Allah, he begins to feel Allah's nearness more deeply.

The Example of the Prophets (A.S.)

All of the Prophets (A.S.) sacrificed their personal desires and remained steadfast for the sake of Allah.

They fulfilled the trust of free will by willingly choosing Allah above everything else.

Their lives teach us that true closeness to Allah is not achieved through physical distance but through faith, obedience, patience, and sacrifice.

The Lesson of Eid al-Adha

Every year, Eid al-Adha reminds us of the meaning of sacrifice.

When an animal is sacrificed, its throat is cut from the front, and the jugular veins are severed.

This sacrifice is not merely a ritual. It is a reminder that just as we sacrifice an animal, we must also sacrifice the desires, attachments, and sins that keep us distant from Allah.

However, the human ego often resists this sacrifice and wants to live only for this world.

The Example of Imam Hussain (A.S.)

Then there is the example of Imam Hussain ibn Ali (A.S.), The Prophet Muhammad's (ﷺ) grandson, 

who showed the true essence of sacrifice for the sake of Allah in Karbala. Through his sacrifice, one realizes how close he was to Allah and why he is known as:

 The leader of the youth of Paradise.

This is one way of reflecting upon the depth of this magnificent verse.

Today, we can clearly see that tolerance is rapidly declining. People become angry more easily, relationships break more quickly, and even small disagreements turn into hostility.

 Why is this happening?

The decline of tolerance is not merely a social problem; it is also a spiritual crisis. There are many reasons behind it.

1. Dependence on Comfort and Machines

Human behavior has changed dramatically. People have become increasingly dependent on machines, technology, and convenience. When these comforts are unavailable, they feel weak, frustrated, and uncomfortable.

This mindset has also affected human relationships. People have become so accustomed to controlling machines that they unconsciously expect other people to behave according to their wishes as well. When someone exercises their freedom or acts differently, they feel as though they have lost control. As a result, they become impatient and intolerant.

2. The Pressure of Artificial Social Norms

Modern society often imposes artificial standards and expectations, shaping people according to a so-called "New World Order" of thought and behavior. When someone refuses to conform to these expectations, it can create an identity crisis and produce intolerance toward those who think differently.

3. The Dominance of Desires

Another major factor is the growing dominance of desires. The spirit of sacrifice has become weaker, while selfish ambitions have become stronger.

Instead of striving to fulfill their legitimate needs and defend their rights in a just manner, many people attempt to satisfy forbidden desires by using others for personal gain. To achieve this, they become manipulative, controlling, and increasingly intolerant.

The consequences are severe:

You gain more enemies.

Your stress increases.

Trust and loyalty begin to disappear.

Your belief system and inner peace gradually weaken.

The Secret of the Prophet's (ﷺ) Tolerance

Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) remained extraordinarily tolerant because he was free from the need to control people and placed his complete trust in Allah.

He:

Focused on his own responsibilities.

Remained silent when speaking would not bring benefit.

Used his time for good rather than criticizing others.

Fulfilled his duties and often forgave people for personal wrongs.

Did not fuel conflicts among people.

Prayed for the guidance of others because the door of repentance and guidance remains open for everyone.

Established justice without personal hatred or jealousy.

He did not place his hopes in people; he placed them in Allah alone.

This is why he remained patient and tolerant even in the most difficult circumstances. His tolerance was not weakness—it was spiritual strength, self-mastery, and complete trust in Allah's wisdom.

When a person adopts these qualities, they become free from the desperate need to control others. Ironically, many people seek freedom by controlling others, but true freedom comes from freeing oneself from that desire.

Even if a person is a king or ruler, authority is not a privilege of domination but a responsibility before Allah. Power is a trust, and every trust will be accounted for. When people forget this and try to create an order based on their own desires instead of Allah's justice, intolerance inevitably grows.

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What is Qadar?

Allah says in the Qur'an:

Surah Al-Qamar, Ayah 49 (54:49)

اِنَّا كُلَّ شَىۡءٍ خَلَقۡنٰهُ بِقَدَرٍ‏ 

"Indeed, all things We created with predestination (Qadar)."

If we read this verse carefully, we find that the word Qadar, translated here as predestination, carries a depth of meaning. It can refer to destiny, preordainment, measure, balance, proportion, decree, and design.

At first glance, having so many meanings attached to a single word may seem confusing. Yet when we reflect upon them, they all point toward a single reality: Allah has created everything according to a fixed and precise order. Whether we call it destiny, measure, balance, or design, each meaning describes an aspect of the same reality established by Allah.

If we look at the world through the lens of science, we know that despite having advanced tools and mathematical formulas, we can never measure anything with absolute precision. At microscopic levels, there is always some degree of variation. This is why the concept of Qadar can be understood as representing Allah's Divine Measure—a perfect plan known completely to Him.

Why is this so?

Because for Allah, everything is absolute. Nothing surprises Him, and nothing escapes His knowledge. A thing can only move or change to the extent that Allah has allowed it to. This is why the Qur'an uses the word Qadar. Everything in the universe is in a state of continuous motion and change, yet that motion takes place within boundaries established by Allah.

Within those boundaries, creation possesses movement and choice. Sometimes that movement takes a unique direction that reflects free will. However, when a thing repeatedly moves beyond the limits set for it, destruction begins to appear.

A question then arises:

Does that destruction also fall under predestination?

To understand this question, let us reflect on examples from the Qur’an and science.

Example No. 1

The Qur'an mentions the story of Prophet Salih (A.S.). His people demanded a she-camel as a sign from Allah and declared that they would believe if such a sign appeared. Allah granted them the she-camel, but He also placed their test within it. Instead of respecting the sign, they killed the she-camel.

So the question is:

Did Allah write in their destiny that they would commit this act?

And even if someone were to claim that this happened solely because Allah willed it, then another question arises:

Why did Allah provide them with a path to repentance?

Why were they given three days to correct themselves?

Example No. 2

Imagine that you purchase a car with a maximum speed of 200.

Most of the time, you drive it at 100. You enjoy the ride and continue using it responsibly.

One day, however, you become interested in racing. You drive faster, enjoy the thrill, and win a race. Encouraged by the experience, you begin driving aggressively every day.

Gradually, the tires start wearing out. The engine begins showing signs of damage. Small problems emerge one after another. These issues serve as indications and warnings.

Yet you refuse to stop.

Eventually, the car becomes completely damaged and goes beyond repair.

In such a situation, can you blame the company for giving the car a speed range of 200?

And if that speed range existed, under what conditions was it meant to be used?

This example helps us understand why the concept of Qadar is so important.

Allah wants you to move, grow, act, and make choices. But He has also established limits within creation. Every action carries consequences built into the design of the universe. When a person remains within those limits, harmony is maintained. When a person repeatedly ignores the signs and goes beyond those limits, the consequences of those choices begin to appear.

Yet Allah, in His mercy, does not immediately abandon His servants. He gives signs, warnings, opportunities for reflection, and chances for repentance. The purpose of these signs is to help a person recognize where they are heading before greater consequences arrive.

In this way, Qadar is not just about destiny. It also points toward measure, balance, design, proportion, and the limits through which Allah governs His creation.

Why?

Because Allah is Al-Latif (ٱلْلَّطِيف)—“The Most Subtle, The Most Kind.”

It means He knows every tiny detail of your life, even the ones you can’t see… like things under a microscope level, hidden deep in places human eyes can never reach.

That’s the real depth behind the word Qadar.

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The True Meaning of Acceptance 

The word "acceptance" is often used in many different ways. People frequently say that acceptance is the key to making things better and that it is a state of surrender. But what does acceptance truly mean in Islam?

Let us decode it step by step.

Every Human Is Created Upon the Fitrah of Allah

The Quran tells us that every human being is created upon the fitrah (natural disposition) established by Allah. Every person is born with an innate inclination toward purity and truth.

Allah says:

Surah Ar-Rum (30:30)

فَأَقِمْ وَجْهَكَ لِلدِّينِ حَنِيفًا ۚ فِطْرَتَ اللَّهِ الَّتِي فَطَرَ النَّاسَ عَلَيْهَا

"So direct your face toward the religion, inclining to truth. The fitrah of Allah upon which He created mankind." 

Every person is born with an innate inclination toward purity and truth.

Allah Is Light

Allah says:

Surah An-Nur (24:35)

اللَّهُ نُورُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ

"Allah is the Light of the heavens and the earth." 

This means that a person is originally created with a natural potential for purity, goodness, and guidance.

However, alongside this purity exists Shaytan, who constantly attempts to corrupt and distance human beings from their original nature.

A person is born into circumstances that they do not choose and cannot control. These circumstances greatly influence how their personality develops. As they grow older, they often begin to identify completely with the habits and behaviors that emerged from those circumstances.

Eventually, many people start believing, "This is just who I am."

Their flaws and weaknesses begin to feel like an inseparable part of their identity.

One reason for this is that these unhealthy habits often provide moments of relief, comfort, attention, or emotional satisfaction.

For example, imagine a child who grows up as an orphan.

Throughout life, they face challenges that another person may never experience. Much of their life may be spent in survival mode. Even when they become adults, can their life experience truly be compared to someone who never faced such hardships?

Of course not.

Their habits, fears, and coping mechanisms will likely be very different.

Perhaps they constantly seek approval and praise because they were deprived of love and attention. Perhaps they resort to stealing because poverty and hardship pushed them toward desperate solutions.

In both cases, they are trying to obtain their share of happiness and security.

Over time, these behaviors become so familiar that they start feeling like their true nature.

Then guidance comes.

Allah opens their heart, improves their circumstances, and shows them a better path.

Now suppose that person continues stealing and says:

"This is simply my nature."

Would that be acceptable?

Of course not.

Before Islam came, many people had developed habits that Islam later declared forbidden, such as drinking alcohol.

When Islam prohibited alcohol, those people did not instantly lose all desire for it. The cravings remained.

What were they expected to do?

They were expected to struggle against those cravings.

Allah understands human weakness. That is precisely why He opened the door of repentance.

But repentance requires patience.

A person should continue resisting their sinful habits and strive to change them rather than accepting them as permanent parts of their identity.

They should not make excuses for their wrongdoing.

Instead, they should acknowledge their faults and take responsibility for them.

Prophet Adam (A.S.) and Accepting Responsibility

This is what Prophet Adam A.S did when he admitted his mistake and sought forgiveness from Allah.

Allah records the supplication of Adam and Hawwa:

Surah Al-A'raf (7:23)

قَالَا رَبَّنَا ظَلَمْنَا أَنْفُسَنَا وَإِنْ لَمْ تَغْفِرْ لَنَا وَتَرْحَمْنَا لَنَكُونَنَّ مِنَ الْخَاسِرِينَ

"They said, 'Our Lord, we have wronged ourselves, and if You do not forgive us and have mercy upon us, we will surely be among the losers.'"

Likewise, Prophet Yunus (peace be upon him) acknowledged his error and turned back to Allah in repentance.

Prophet Yunus (A.S.) and Owning One's Mistake

لَا إِلَٰهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ سُبْحَانَكَ إِنِّي كُنْتُ مِنَ الظَّالِمِينَ

"There is no deity except You; glory be to You. Indeed, I was among the wrongdoers." 

Acceptance is a process of self-reflection that helps a person recognize their flaws, take responsibility, and begin self-reformation. No justification can make a mistake right in the sight of Allah.

Someone may ask:

"But those were prophets. Their mistakes were not the result of long-standing sinful habits. Their errors occurred in moments of human weakness."

That is true.

However, an ordinary person often carries the weight of a difficult past and deeply ingrained habits.

Such a person may consciously struggle against their desires for years.

They fight their nafs.

They resist.

Then a weak moment arrives, and they fall.

At that point, intention becomes extremely important.

Did they genuinely try to resist?

Or have they secretly accepted sin as part of their lifestyle?

Have they created a cycle where they temporarily abstain only to return to the same behavior with no sincere intention of changing?

This is why the door of repentance remains open.

Each time a person repents, they should sincerely intend never to return to the sin.

They should ask Allah for help.

They should acknowledge their weakness.

They should continue striving against their nafs.

They should keep their intentions pure.

They should maintain hope and a positive mindset.

And they should leave the final outcome to Allah.

Never Despair of Allah's Mercy

The door of repentance remains open because Allah's mercy is greater than our sins.

Allah says:

Surah Az-Zumar (39:53)

قُلۡ يٰعِبَادِىَ الَّذِيۡنَ اَسۡرَفُوۡا عَلٰٓى اَنۡفُسِهِمۡ لَا تَقۡنَطُوۡا مِنۡ رَّحۡمَةِ اللّٰهِ‌ؕ اِنَّ اللّٰهَ يَغۡفِرُ الذُّنُوۡبَ جَمِيۡعًا‌ؕ اِنَّهٗ هُوَ الۡغَفُوۡرُ الرَّحِيۡمُ‏ 

"Say, O My servants who have transgressed against themselves, do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins." 

This, perhaps, is the true meaning of acceptance in Islam.

Acceptance does not mean accepting your sins as your identity.

Acceptance means accepting responsibility for your weaknesses while refusing to surrender to them.

It means accepting that you have flaws, accepting that you need Allah's help, accepting that change takes time, and accepting that guidance ultimately comes from Allah.

Allah Sees the Effort, Not Just the Result

The Quran teaches that human beings will be judged according to their efforts and striving.

Allah says:

Surah An-Najm (53:39)

وَأَنْ لَيْسَ لِلْإِنْسَانِ إِلَّا مَا سَعَىٰ

"And that there is not for man except that for which he strives." 

Therefore, a believer must reject every thought, temptation, and whisper that pulls them toward sin.

They continue striving, repenting, and returning to Allah, trusting that every sincere effort is seen by Him.

The true Islamic meaning of acceptance is not surrendering to the lower self.

It is accepting the truth about oneself, turning to Allah for help, and continuing the struggle for purification while leaving the results in His hands.

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The Quran encourages believers to help others both publicly and privately. Neither method is condemned; both can be acts of worship when done sincerely for Allah.

Allah says:

(Surah Al-Baqarah 2:271)

اِنۡ تُبۡدُوۡا الصَّدَقٰتِ فَنِعِمَّا هِىَ‌ۚ وَاِنۡ تُخۡفُوۡهَا وَتُؤۡتُوۡهَا الۡفُقَرَآءَ فَهُوَ خَيۡرٌ لَّكُمۡ‌ؕ

"If you disclose your charities, it is good; but if you conceal them and give them to the poor, it is better for you."

This verse reveals an important balance. Public charity is good, yet hidden charity carries a special virtue.

When Charity Is Seen

There are times when giving openly serves a greater purpose.

A generous act can inspire others to be generous. A person who witnesses someone feeding the hungry, supporting an orphan, or helping a struggling family may feel encouraged to do the same. In this way, one act of charity can become the beginning of many others.

This is why the Quran does not discourage public charity. Goodness, when displayed with sincere intentions, can spread goodness.

However, public acts also carry a subtle danger. The heart may begin seeking recognition from people instead of Winning the pleasure of Allah. What begins as worship can gradually become a search for praise, admiration, or social approval.

For this reason, sincerity remains the true measure of every charitable act.

The Protection Found in Secret Charity

Hidden charity offers a unique protection.

It protects the giver from seeking attention and protects the recipient from embarrassment.

Many people endure hardship while trying to preserve their dignity. They may need help, yet they do not wish to be known as those who ask. Their poverty is hidden behind patience, self-respect, and silence.

When assistance reaches such a person discreetly, their need is relieved without exposing their struggle. The help benefits them, but their honor remains untouched.

In this way, secret charity does more than provide financial support—it preserves human dignity.

The Highest Form of Giving

Yet there is a level of charity even more beautiful.

Not only is the donation hidden, but the donor is hidden as well.

Islamic tradition relates that Imam Ali A.S would carry provisions during the night and deliver them to vulnerable families without revealing his identity. Many of those receiving the aid did not know who was helping them.

Whether one focuses on the historical details or the lesson itself, the message is profound.

The family receives food, but they do not become attached to a benefactor. They are not burdened by feelings of indebtedness toward a particular person. Instead, their hearts remain directed toward the One who ultimately provided for them.

The Hidden Hand That Points to Allah

When people know exactly who helped them, gratitude naturally turns toward that person.

But when assistance arrives through an unknown hand, the mind begins searching beyond human beings.

The recipient reflects upon the fact that Allah knew their need, Allah created a way for relief to reach them, and Allah sent provision from a source they never expected.

The less visible the human hand becomes, the more visible the care of Allah becomes.

Allah says:

(Surah An-Nahl 16:53)

وَمَا بِكُمۡ مِّنۡ نّـِعۡمَةٍ فَمِنَ اللّٰهِ‌

"Whatever blessing you have is from Allah."

And when a giver hides their identity while helping others, they diminish the prominence of their own self and affirm Allah’s greatness within their heart. This protects them from showing off and nurtures humility within them.

Because every blessing they possess ultimately comes from Allah alone.

Charity by Night and by Day

Allah praises both forms of giving:

(Surah Al-Baqarah 2:274)

الَّذِيۡنَ يُنۡفِقُوۡنَ اَمۡوَالَهُمۡ بِالَّيۡلِ وَالنَّهَارِ سِرًّا وَّعَلَانِيَةً فَلَهُمۡ اَجۡرُهُمۡ عِنۡدَ رَبِّهِمۡ‌ۚ 

"Those who spend their wealth by night and by day, secretly and publicly, will have their reward with their Lord."

The Quran recognizes that different situations call for different forms of charity. Sometimes goodness should be seen so that it inspires others. At other times, goodness should be hidden so that sincerity, dignity, and reliance upon Allah are preserved.

Wisdom lies in knowing which form best serves Allah's pleasure in a given moment.

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Human Nature vs Human Desire

A Quranic psychological reflection on how human nature (fitrah) and human desire (nafs) shape behavior and decision-making.

To understand this matter, we first need to look at the Quran and see what Allah says about the nature upon which human beings were created. Then we can talk about human desires.

Quranic View of Human Nature

Surah Ar-Rum 30:30

فِطْرَتَ اللَّهِ الَّتِي فَطَرَ النَّاسَ عَلَيْهَا

"Allah's nature upon which He has created mankind."

Surah An-Nisa 4:28

وَخُلِقَ الْإِنسَانُ ضَعِيفًا

 "And man was created weak."

Surah Al-Anbiya 21:37

خُلِقَ الْإِنسَانُ مِنْ عَجَلٍ

  "Man was created hasty."

Surah Al-Ma'arij 70:19-21

إِنَّ الْإِنسَانَ خُلِقَ هَلُوعًا ۝ إِذَا مَسَّهُ الشَّرُّ جَزُوعًا ۝ وَإِذَا مَسَّهُ الْخَيْرُ مَنُوعًا

 "Indeed, mankind was created anxious. When adversity touches him, he becomes distressed, and when good reaches him, he becomes withholding."

Surah At-Tin 95:4

لَقَدْ خَلَقْنَا الْإِنسَانَ فِي أَحْسَنِ تَقْوِيمٍ

"Indeed, We created man in the best form."

If these verses are read carefully, they describe human nature 

A person cannot develop his own fundamental nature; that is in Allah's hands.

Human Limitations and Reality

A person cannot control his environment, nor can he control the incidents that happen in his life.

Example 1

If someone has an accident and loses an arm, that condition begins to control certain aspects of his life. He must follow a specific routine and develop a new perspective on life. In this matter, a person has no choice; he is compelled to adapt.

Example 2

A person whose parents, during childhood, stopped him from doing things that were not wrong may develop anger in his heart. He may begin to see his parents as unfair. He grows up, circumstances change, and life becomes better, yet the anger remains.

He sees other people living normal lives, but the perspective created by his past remains with him. Because of that anger, he starts speaking harshly even to innocent people. When told that he is wrong, he replies, "No, this is the principle. This is my nature.

Is such a person helpless in this situation?

No.

Even if he was wronged, does that give him the right to pass that oppression on to others?

Because he was told to live according to his parents' expectations, he could not fight for his own rights. The anger remained in his heart, and instead of healing it, he began violating the rights of others to satisfy that anger. But that is not justified.

Human Nature vs Human Responsibility

So what should such a person do?

This is where I understand the Quranic verses about human nature.

A human being is weak. He wants everything to become right quickly, which is why he is hasty and anxious.

He becomes distressed when hardship reaches him.

And when everything becomes good, he becomes withholding. He neither protects others from the same suffering he experienced—what is often called trauma transfer—nor does he thank Allah. Instead, he begins to see comfort as his right.

This is where human desire and human ego begin.

Example from Bani Israel

A perfect example appears in the Quran when Bani Israel said to Musa (A.S.):

"We cannot endure one kind of food. Ask your Lord to provide for us from what the earth grows."

Musa (A.S.) replied:

"Would you exchange what is better for what is lesser?"

Now reflect on this example.

Any ordinary person would not want to eat the same food all the time. He would desire to eat different kinds of food.

But why did Musa (A.S.) respond by saying that they were abandoning something better for something lesser?

This was also connected to the tone from which Bani Israel were speaking.

Before Freedom of Bani Israel

1. They were slaves of Pharaoh.

2. Their children were being killed.

3. They were rescued and freed, and saved from Pharaoh's army.

4. Allah forgave many of their mistakes.

5. They were given provision in the desert without labor.

6. They were given the shade of clouds, which guided them and protected them from the heat, while fire provided guidance and warmth at night.

They were given every kind of ease, yet they began to see more things as their right.

Their tone was also harsh. They were declaring that they could not be patient and that they must be given something else.

This was not nature; it was desire making them weak.

Yet there was no weakness in their tone.

Instead, they should have been grateful to Allah for the ease He had provided.

Their tone should not have been demanding but requesting.

They could have said:

"Pray to your Lord on our behalf that He gives us ease. We are trying to be patient, but we also desire different food."

But they rejected food that was only a test.

The Command of Allah

Then what did Allah do?

Allah admitted them into a city (town) and accepted their request. He instructed them to enter while prostrating and saying:

"Ḥiṭṭah" (O Allah, forgive our sins).

Yet they could not even say this word properly. They altered it.

They became so withholding in worship that even a single word felt heavy upon them.

Why was that?

They became so occupied with their lives that one word felt burdensome. The importance of that word disappeared from their hearts.

Even worse, instead of seeking forgiveness for forgetting, they deliberately changed the word itself.

The very word that could have been a means of salvation from their sins became something they mocked.

They began mocking Allah's commands until they even started killing the prophets of Allah.

Why was that?

Because they believed they were special and the chosen ones.

And one dangerous thing happened: they developed a habit and began to treat it as if it were their nature.

And their end was terrible.

Moral Question

Can anyone claim that he is killing another person because that is simply his nature?

Let us take an example from the famous Netflix series You.

Can a lack of love in childhood and unresolved trauma lead a person to become a serial killer?

Of course not.

Nature gives you chances.

Accept your sins.

Show accountability, but he developed a behavior that gradually became a habit.

Musa (A.S.) Example

In You, the main character was so compelled to protect his desires and himself that he never seriously considered surrendering himself to the police.

But Musa (A.S.) also killed a man accidentally while trying to defend a weak person in a moment of rage. He fled, yet when Allah sent him back, he showed concern, asked Allah for help, and Allah forgave him.

Why did Allah forgive him?

Because he was trying to protect a weak person. He did not intend to kill.

In the Quran, Musa (A.S.) said:

"I have wronged myself."

The words are clear. It was unintentional.

It was a reaction in which he could not remain patient.

This was not his usual habit.

He did not normally punish people in anger like this. Rather, it was a moment of haste.

The Quran describes human beings as hasty by nature. 

Bani Israel, demanded different food because they could not remain patient.

What began as a moment of haste later developed into a habit, and eventually they became accustomed to going against Allah’s commands.

Purpose of Human Nature

Why did Allah create human beings like this?

To test them and see who turns back to Him in that haste and uses free will correctly.

Who waits for the signs of Allah.

Who uses intelligence, reflects upon the scriptures of Allah, and finds answers according to the situation.

Who feels weak and asks Allah for help.

And who becomes strong, makes life easier for others, and remains grateful during times of ease.

Final Reflection

Human nature makes a person closer to Allah.

And human desire makes a person feel forced,

helpless,

and compelled.

And then a person escapes responsibility by labeling this weakness and dependency as "human nature" and even goes on to justify it.

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  👉   ALLAH’S SYSTEM VS SATAN’S SYSTEM: A SPIRITUAL REFLECTION

Allah created every human being with a unique individuality.

Even identical twins are different from the inside, and even their outer appearance is never completely the same. They may look alike, yet Allah still made each one unique. In Allah’s system, there are no true copies — everything carries its own identity, balance, and purpose.

Satan’s Copycat System

Then comes Satan’s system, which slowly erases individuality and pushes people to think, live, and behave like copies of one another.

For example:

- “Follow the trends.”

- “Follow your desires.”

- “Do what everyone else is doing.”

And if someone asks, “Why should I do it?”

The answer is usually:

- “Because everyone does it.”

- “It’s important.”

- “There is pleasure in it.”

- “Do whatever makes you happy.”

But when you look deeply, many people do not even know why they want those things. They simply follow desires, trends, and social pressure without questioning where the path is leading.

Now here is the important question:

Allah created every person with a unique personality, yet He also gave humanity one truth, one moral direction, and one roadmap for life.

So some people ask:

“If Allah already gave us individuality, then how is Satan the villain for encouraging freedom, trends, pleasure, and desires? What is the harm if everyone is doing it?”

Where Satan’s Deception Is Hidden

This is exactly where Satan’s deception becomes hidden.

Allah tells you to follow His guidance only according to your ability. He does not burden a soul beyond its capacity. He knows human weakness, emotions, and struggles better than anyone.

But think honestly:

The energy, discipline, sacrifice, and emotional effort people spend chasing desires, trends, pleasure, validation, status, and addictions — is it not often greater than the effort they spend trying to improve themselves spiritually or obey Allah?

How Blind Desires Destroy Individuality

Blind desire does not strengthen individuality — it slowly destroys it.

Because when desires control a person completely, they stop thinking independently. Their personality becomes dependent on pleasure, trends, people’s opinions, and temporary emotions. They no longer act from truth; they react from cravings.

The Danger of Uncontrolled Desires

History repeatedly shows that when human desires become unlimited, oppression begins.

For example, Pharaoh became so consumed by power, ego, and desire that he oppressed others and ordered the killing of the children of Bani Israel. What began as desire for control eventually turned into tyranny.

That is the danger of blindly worshipping desires: a person can slowly lose mercy, humility, self-awareness, and even their humanity without realizing it.

The Satanic system crushes a person under the weight of their desires, just as happened with Pharaoh. In contrast, Allah’s system frees a human being.

How?

Allah’s system embraces diversity.

Allah forgives.

Allah gives chances.

Allah accepts even small sincere efforts.

Allah allows repentance.

Allah does not demand perfection from human beings.

And when a person struggles, Allah tells them to ask Him for help, and He creates ease for them.

How Satan Eats Individuality

Satan, on the other hand, beautifies false identities and temporary pleasures until a person becomes deeply attached to a version of themselves that is not real. A person may appear free on the outside while becoming spiritually empty on the inside. This is how Satan eats individuality—not by destroying personality instantly, but by slowly replacing a person’s true self with desires, imitation, ego, addiction, and endless validation from people.

Eventually, the person no longer feels connected to their real inner self anymore.

The Final Loss

And that inner darkness is one of the greatest losses a human being can face.

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The Greatest Title Given by Allah

Allah gave many titles to Muhammad ﷺ, but among them, the greatest title Allah Himself chose was:

Surah Al-Anbiya (21:107)

وَمَاۤ اَرۡسَلۡنٰكَ اِلَّا رَحۡمَةً لِّـلۡعٰلَمِيۡنَ‏

 “And We have not sent you except as a mercy to all the worlds.”

This title is not limited to one nation, one type of people, or one era.

Allah called him ﷺ a mercy for all the worlds.

What Is Mercy?

To understand this title, we first need to understand what mercy truly means.

Mercy means:

When someone is weak, you become their strength.

When someone has no voice, you become their voice.

And when someone makes a mistake, you still give them the chance to explain themselves with fairness and compassion.

Mercy is not weakness.

True mercy is balance — balance between justice and kindness

A Secret Reflection on,

The Dress Code of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ

Even the dome of the Roza-e-Rasool ﷺ is green.

Allah introduces Himself in the Quran as Light (Noor).

And when white light is split, a spectrum of seven colors appears.

Green appears in the center of the visible spectrum — between warmer and cooler tones.

It creates a sense of balance and harmony.

Green is the color of nature, bringing balance to the world — and it is the color Allah chose for him ﷺ.

This becomes a deep reflection of the title:

 رحمۃٌ للعالمین — Mercy to all the worlds

No matter how people behaved — angry or calm, harsh or gentle — The Prophet ﷺ remained balanced in mercy, wisdom, patience, and justice.

So here is the answer to the question: What is mercy?

Mercy means perfect balance.

Mercy in Weakness and Mercy in Power

The life of the Prophet ﷺ itself explains this title.

During the incident of Journey to Taif, when he was hurt and rejected, he still chose mercy for the people.

And during the Conquest of Mecca, when he had complete victory and power, he again chose mercy instead of revenge.

This is what made him ﷺ truly:

Mercy to all the worlds

Because many people show kindness when weak, and many show power when strong.

But the Prophet ﷺ showed mercy in both conditions.

Understanding It Through Science

In science, balance is what keeps systems alive.

The human body survives through balance.

Nature survives through balance.

Even light contains balance within its colors.

And in the same way, the Prophet ﷺ brought balance to humanity:

balance between justice and forgiveness,

strength and gentleness,

authority and compassion.

The Beauty of This Title

This Title itself shows Allah’s love for His Prophet ﷺ.

Allah did not describe him mainly through wealth, power, or status.

Instead, Allah introduced him to the worlds through mercy.

And the life of Muhammad ﷺ became the perfect example of love, mercy, wisdom, and obedience to Allah.