میدان ناہوت 

کبھی کبھار یوں ہوتا ہے کہ نہ جنت لبھاتی ہے، نہ دوزخ ڈراتی ہے

نہ کمال کی چاہ باقی رہتی ہے، نہ فرار کا خواب 

بس دل ایک ٹھہری ہوئی خاموشی مانگتا ہے

ایسی خاموشی جہاں روح  سکون کا سانس لے سکے۔

Oblivion

(RAAST)

 پانی آنکھ سے بہہ کر حلق میں اتر آیا ہے

Unseen tears traced silent scars, 

Through broken whispers and quiet wars.

They brushed my throat, then slipped apart

Today, I found the stillness of heart.

(RAAST)

" خدا اور شیطان، دونوں کی شرط ایک ہی ہے " وفا

(راست)

God and the devil have one thing in common:

 they both ask for " loyalty "

(RAAST)

Family is supposed to be home but for too many, it's where the hurt started. When your pain is from the people who were supposed to love and take care of you, it can mess with your head, your heart, and your whole sense of self.

It ain't easy battling through family trauma, but it is possible. It's a matter of being strong, ending bad patterns, and creating the life you want on your terms, one step at a time.

This is how to begin the fight and fight for yourself until you prevail.

1. Call It What It Is

You can't conquer what you're too afraid to name aloud. So you must say it first. And what that takes is honesty about what was done to you even if it hurts.

Ask yourself:

- What was done to me that still bothers me?

- How did my family treat me as a child?

- What are the old habits that still control me today?

You're not melodramatic or thankful you're being authentic.

2. Stop Blaming Yourself

Come on you were not at fault. You didn't create the mess, the silence, the abandonment, the yelling, or the emotional theatrics. That was theirs.

Trauma with the family gets passed down generations. Breaking it takes the stance, "This stops with me."

And that's freedom.

3. Don't Do This Alone

You're tough but you're not a machine. Even soldiers need help. Connect with someone who can really walk you through the destruction and create fresh clothing.

- A good counselor will assist you in finding meaning in your narrative and provide you with ways to break out of it.

- Support groups will remind you you're not alone.

- True friends  the ones who listen to you from head to toe and don't judge you — are more valuable than gold.

This is your corner. Stand on it.

4. Learn About What You're Fighting

The more you know about trauma, the more you can resist it. When you know how it creeps into your brain, responses, and relationships, you can shut it down in its tracks.

Some salty books (in the good sense):

- The Body Keeps the Score

 written by Bessel van der Kolk

- Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

 written by Lindsay Gibson

- It Didn't Start with You 

written by Mark Wolynn

You will be rocked by these and be able to refine your tools.

5. Guard Your Peace Like It's Sacred

Facing trauma sometimes involves putting up walls not to keep everyone else out, but to keep yourself safe from harm. Boundaries are how you say, "I matter. My peace matters."

It may mean:

- Hanging up toxic phone calls

- Not attending certain family gatherings

- Saying "no" without providing an explanation

- Opting for distance when closeness is still causing pain

This is not being cold. This is being brave.

6. Let the Emotions Out — Don't Bottle Them

The battle rages. And keeping it all bottled up only tightens the knot. Cry. Yell. Write. Dance. Paint. Write angry letters you never mail.

Do whatever you need to shake that pain.

You've had enough silence.

7. Make a Life That Feels Like Freedom

This is what you're really fighting for this new you who isn't held back by the past. The you who gets to choose joy, peace, and love on your terms.

Steal back your power:

- Hang out with people who make you feel safe

- Practice kindness on yourself

- Hell yes to whatever gets you alive

You aren't fighting the trauma  you're building something better.

8. Final Thoughts: You're Not Alone in This War

Trauma does not go away but you can grow out of it, outwit it, and move past it. There will be more difficult days. There will be days when you'll be spent. But every step you take is a blow struck in the right direction.

And remember:

"You didn’t choose this contest, but you’re more than strong enough to win it"

If you would like, I can even draft up some affirmations or journal entries to keep you on the right mental space during the war. Let me know.

 وقت سے زخم تو بھر جاتے ہیں مگر ان زخموں کی درد کی شدت

 انسان صرف تب بھولتا ہے جب منزل پر پہنچ جاتا ہے

(راست)

Scars may fade, but the wounds' pain 

is forgotten only when one fulfills their destiny 

(RAAST)

 ظاہری شکل اور اندر کے جذبات میں ہم آہنگی نہ ہو تو آپ لوگوں کے لیے

 غیر اہم یا ایک مذاق ہی رہتے ہیں

 (راست)